It's unbelievable how you wouldn't repeat the same cycle that you passed through when it comes to your own family, yet you would risk doing it to others not in relation to you, or probably do it to someone within your family whom you do not get along with.
When you swore that you wouldn't let injustice that was done to you in the past to ever repeat the same to any other human, then you should stop it for all. Don't lean on just the few you know.Apply justice for all.
Stay true to your words.
And when you slip and make the same injustice cycle happen again then own your actions. Own your mistakes.
Getting people to do something by asking for the opposite. Reverse psychology is a persuasive technique that involves getting someone to engage in the desired action or response by suggesting the opposite.
This involves emotional desire. Getting someone to experience and feel the guilt so you can feel free and not have the guilt strangling your throat.
By playing the innocent one in the game so that the other person could feel guilty and think they've done wrong. This makes the other person feel guilty and doubt their own decisions. It affects self-confidence.
To the one misusing reverse psychology card, do not misuse it so you could avoid self-guilt. Your instincts would definitely tell you deep down the guilt is still there. Face it and not throw it to an innocent person.
To the one being thrown this card, trust your guts and believe in facts. Don't let emotions fool you to doubting your own decisions. Be strong and take time to digest the information before you believe it all to be true. Don't let guilt overtake your innocence.
Reading a book or attending a session about an Islamic ruling you wish to study on or know more about, give you the opportunity to gain more knowledge about it. Whereas, Shaykh Google gives you just the exact answer to your question but you miss out on being exposed to more than just the answer.
That's why we see ourselves going back to Google next time we have an issue.
Not everything on Google is authentic Islam. You have to sieve through what you take. How would you know what to take and what to leave ?
By having the principles / conditions in mind. You gain those from institutes and centres of gaining knowledge.
It's time we stop depending on Shaykh Google.
The way of the salaf were to gain knowledge from books and lectures. Not everyone's learning preference is reading and listening. I know that. But, you can still use your learning preference to still gain the same knowledge. Whether it's auditory or reading or kinesthetic(physical) or visual or verbal or logical or social or solitary or even just combination of more than one learning preference.
Goodness thrives when we accept to change our future for the better life not just for ourselves but for others as well.
Do unto others what you want them to do to you. Treat all with kindness and love.
Most of those afflicted with miserable childhood memories they tend to protect their children from getting the same treatment. However, they fail to recognise that they are repeating the same behaviour to other people in the name of "Protecting their OWN." When you decide to end it, then end it for all. Don't specify but generalize to all.
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