When you are the reason for someone's miserable past life then do know it never goes unnoticed by Allah. The pen has written and the ink has dried. Erase the bitter pages before it's too late. What goes round comes around.... You may get the punishment back in this world or the Hereafter.
It's one of the chapters in your book that you made someone's life miserable. The pen has written and the ink has dried.
Erase it by making Tawbah and seeking forgiveness from that person.
Or else it will come back to you.
Allah doesn't allow Dhulm (Injustice) go unnoticed.
Or else it will be projected in the Hereafter, where everyone will see and witness what kind of a pathetic, evil person you were.
Many at times, we wonder where did we go wrong ? Why all these worldly issues never end? After covid, another phase came in then another hijab ban then another famine strike and on and on. It seems endless. Have you ever wondered why ?
We, humans were created in different tribes all connected towards Islam. If we would rule this world based upon how each tribe recognizes their culture to be right and just, then for sure there will be more chaos than ever.
Islam is our origin. We all originate from Adam, alayhi salaam.
Look at the story of Banu Israeel, they lost their origin (Tawheed - Oneness of Allah) and started going back to shirk (Associating partners with Allah). Look at where it led them to ? Destruction over destruction. Pharaoh came in and started manipulating them, their kids were killed out of that result. They lived in fear, pain, anxiety and depression. They lost control over their lives. It all started from losing their origin!
This #hijab ban that's going on. Till us Muslims start respecting the hijab by wearing it in its original form where No neck is shown, No ears are shown, No glittery nor any form of adornment is on top of it, No perfumed scent. Complete original form where we respect it as Muslims then other religions will respect it too, bidnillah! #respect your origins! You want to change the world. You want Allah to change this era. Change from within. Start with YOU! Al-Anfal 8:53
Part of the day you laugh, enjoy, have fun and even think, " Boy! I have the best brother/sister in the World." Fast forward, later on in the day, silly argument, quarrels, fights, dislike, and you think, " Ayayayay! Why do I wish he/she disappears?"
I've been there! I hear you! That's how crazy it is! It will never be all smooth and easy peasy. It's a rough road. You wonder why? Why does it happen that way? Well! For starters, you came from the same source, but just like every other human being you've met seemed to be different. It's the same scenario with your siblings. They are multi-coloured. They have different personalities.
You've got to accept and respect the differences. Live with them. Expect that it will never be lovey-dovey. It will forever be ups and downs. Stop the over expectations. Accept each other's flaws. Well! Just like after a storm is sunshine, and after a sunshine is storm, then it's the same scenario with you two.
They care about you. They don't hate you. Dislike may happen during the anger period but it will go and guess what ? It may come again.
What goes round comes around! Share your funny fights siblings story below!
When you choose to remain calm, understanding, and considerate during a certain dramatic scene that has been played before, then you have outgrown those distractions and they seem petty & wastage of energy, time and focus.
Pat on your back for growing up!
The prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم used to choose to remain calm during certain intriguing situations. Maryam bint Imran عليها السلام was instructed to remain silent during the birth of Nabii Issa عليه السلام Zakariyah عليه السلام was asked to remain silent for 3 days.
Imam Malik was known for his quietness and the one who wasn't afraid to answer with لا أعلم ( I do not know ) when he was questioned to give rulings to certain situations.
This shows the importance of choosing silence. If prophets and righteous beings chose it, then who are we to speak up, when you know deep inside, it will just add more oil to the burning flame ?
This isn't the first time this has happened. Remaining calm during a play means you have grown mentally and attained a level of wisdom that not many can understand.
Choose silence when a certain past scenario is being played again in front of your eyes.
Goodness thrives when we accept to change our future for the better life not just for ourselves but for others as well.
Do unto others what you want them to do to you. Treat all with kindness and love.
Most of those afflicted with miserable childhood memories they tend to protect their children from getting the same treatment. However, they fail to recognise that they are repeating the same behaviour to other people in the name of "Protecting their OWN." When you decide to end it, then end it for all. Don't specify but generalize to all.
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The moment you start categorizing whatever responsibility you have in life into what's a MUST for you and what's an OPTION for you then life becomes easier to manage and enjoy.
Most of us indulge ourselves into so many sunnah activities (which I truly encourage) just my advice is do not get lost along the way and start neglecting what's obligatory upon you.
This differentiation goes down to even your relationship with your kids and spouses to your relationship with your friend. Someone who is your blood relative and someone who is a close friend. I know some may argue that some friends are like family. But there are still others who are literary are just friends, so Identify the classes there and level of closeness you have.
This even targets our ibaadah acts. Our Salah, our Sawm, Our Zakaah, Our Hajj ...and so on...
It's simple algorithms. You cannot take number 2 highly when number 1 is there. You cannot take highly of certain sunnah acts whilst you neglect your fardh acts.
This goes further more to even your parenting responsibility. You cannot take your kids for granted and take other students in class/work highly. Your kids are your number 1 category.. You are their first teacher. Prophet taught us: "O Messenger of Allah! Who is most deserving of my fine treatment?" He (ﷺ) said, "Your mother, then your mother, then your mother, then your father, then your nearest, then nearest".
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].
Even your own parents have levels as long as they ask you to do what is right, forbid what is evil and do not ask you to disobey Allah.
Relationships that have an aim of lasting forever together as one, always pose a solution that one of the two arguing has to step down and either forgive or ask for forgiveness.
However, if the goal to formulating or driving this accidental or unintentional drama, "argument," is not to find a solution but other selfish motives then this strategy won't work.
As one of the two parties won't accept to step down.
Rather leading to a back and forth argument that would sabotage that relationship.
Before you wonder why it's an endless argument, sit back and reflect and ask yourself, " Why was I arguing ? What is my motive behind this argument?" "What am I aiming for to gain at the end of this argument?"
The answer to this will guide your way to the solution.
Either forgive or ask for forgiveness if truly your motive is to seek a solution.
When we get informed then we do have questions coming up in our minds, so that we can be able to connect the dots. When we miss a gap to understand the story then that's when salt and chilli made-up stories based on thoughts are forcefully filled in so that we can end the story in a full drama.
However, this is someone's life we are talking about. When you listen then listen to help and not listen to just fill the gap. When you need to ask then ask because you care for that person and are willing to help and not ask just for the sake of being "informed" so you can fill your curiosity gaps. Both ways we do, but it depends on which result you want to choose.
We do worry, we do get anxious about the future and we do get these negative thoughts that linger in our mind which later affect our spiritual belief and hence trigger our yaqeen(certainty) towards Allah. We add Shakk (uncertainty ) and test Allah to see whether He will do it or not. This happens often, apart from being Qadar(destiny), where we make dua about something and we may do the acts involved in this and even say the correct words but with no yaqeen in heart and we see a failure at the end. Let's take an example: Reading the dua:(Words) بسم الله ×3 أعوذ بالله وقدرته من شر ما أجد و احاذروا ×7 And putting your right hand on the pain on your body or someone else's body(action) whilst reciting this makes the pain go away.
But, where are our thoughts? Our thoughts are still stuck on the fact that it's not the dua that will work but the panadol that I drank earlier. You have uncertainty towards the Dua but very certain on the Painkiller tablet you had.
And guess what! You may or may not heal. You are testing and trying on Allah's powers! And He has the choice to either heal you or not. Just try to push the negative thoughts with positive thoughts of certainty that you will heal by Allah's Grace and Mercy.
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After a break-up, most of the times, the kids end up suffering due to their parents keeping up their egos. This too applies to those parents who always try to keep up with pleasing other human beings by punishing or insulting their own kids. They value their egos and reputation more than their kids mental wellbeing. It's the bitter truth but many of us are being culprits and enslaved to our own egos. May Allah guide us all. Ameen! Kids first and Egos last !